So earlier today I was scrolling through social media. I come across this post my friend shared, and my mind starts going.. In the post she talks about how parenting today isn't easy and how easy it must have been back in the 70's and 80's. And how back then there was no guidelines to follow to be the "perfect mom". This made me really think about how it really is today to be a parent and how hard it REALLY is. Now I am not talking about raising the kids and what goes into that, with the fighting of siblings or the doctors appointments, sports, field trips, arguing and you know the every day stress. I am talking about the stress coming from the outside.
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We live in a society where no matter what you do you will NEVER be the perfect mom!! Why? Because almost everybody thinks someone else is doing it wrong. If you breastfeed there are going to be people who think it is wrong, or those that if they agree with it, they believe you shouldn't do it in public. Ok so to make it easier you decide to formula feed...problem solved right? WRONG! No because now you have people who think you don't care about your baby enough to give them the nutrients your body was made to provide. So either way you are screwed. The same can be said for many things, like vaccinations, circumcision, free range vs attachment parenting (yes those are real things) . Even food, are you an all organic family or do you eat processed foods? Like really!? YOU CANT EVEN FEED YOUR KIDS WITHOUT BEING JUDGED!
There are children out there starving daily and we are worried about arguing about what we feed our kids!? Or how we feed our kids? Thankfully there are a decent sized group of people who have the same mindset I do, "Who...f***ing...cares!" Does the child eat sufficiently? If so then who cares how they are fed!? Is the child clean..well as clean as a child can be anyways? Does the child have clean clothes and a warm place to sleep at night? Is the child physically/emotionally abused? If the only question you answered no to, was the last one. THEN WHO CARES!? Who cares if they are formula or bottle fed, who cares if they got vaccinated or not? Who cares if he was circumcised or not? Who cares if you let your kids be more independent and let them be free to learn and explore, or if you decide to be at there every beck and call.
Do what works for YOUR family! No 2 people are the same and no 2 people are going to be able to live the same. As long as your child is happy and healthy that is all that matters. If you want to grow your own food in your backyard, awesome! You make a lot of things that come in a can or box, sweet! You let your kids moods and wants somewhat dictate the schedule for that day, cool! You decide to stick to a strict schedule and have things done at a certain time and a certain way daily, right on!...Just stop all the judging and the nonsense. Us moms have enough stress with all the normal kid stuff without having to be judged or worry about if we are doing it right? Wanna hear something funny. Not a single one of us is doing it right! Every single mom is learning daily. Hell, my oldest is 11 and I STILL learn things daily. But when it comes to my parenting I do what I do with my children because it is what works for US. It may not work for you but that is okay!
What are your thoughts?
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